Keep what is yours. Share what needs company.
Shared planning begins with an honest map of the current plan. The planner needs to know what is confirmed, what is provisional and which work you want help carrying forward.
The same celebration. Three ways to share the work.
An imagined courtyard gathering: a welcome, a long shared table and an evening toast. Follow these same moments through each support level.
Full planning: discuss support from the first priorities through design and the working day plan.
Shared planning: begin with the couple’s existing decisions and agree named areas of support.
Wedding-day coordination: review an established plan and agree handover, preparation and presence.
Every scope is agreed with the actual planner; these are illustrative responsibilities.
What should lead your conversation?
Before the first invitation
Couple brings existing decisionsBegin with the plans already made. The couple and planner identify the specific decisions that still need support.
Preparing the long table
Responsibilities are named togetherThe couple keeps the agreed tasks; the planner supports selected design or logistics work. Each supplier retains its own contracted work.
The welcome and evening toast
Use the agreed shared planBring both sets of work into one record. Confirm who is present, who answers supplier questions and which tasks remain with the couple.
Sample support only. Planner responsibilities, dates, costs and supplier work need agreement.
A handover map.
- Confirmed
- Bookings and decisions supported by actual records. Note any related tasks still open.
- In progress
- Options being compared, conversations underway and decisions with an expected review point.
- To share
- The areas where you want the planner’s support, with the intended result described clearly.
- To keep
- The decisions or tasks you want to lead yourselves, and how they connect to the shared plan.
Your shared-planning page.
Make a local map before discussing the actual engagement.
Agree the joins.
The important part is where one person’s task meets another’s. Ask who contacts each supplier, where current records live and how a change is communicated. Clear boundaries make the support easier to use.
Take the map to a conversation.
A provider can then explain the scope they can offer.
Open the wedding conversation